Wednesday, 20 September 2017

My Sexuality...

This isn't a coming out post, i've been out for a number of years. This is a post to explain a little more to readers of my blog who might not be one hundred percent sure of my sexuality, not that its anyone elses business but i am extremely open about everything on here so i thought i'd clear a few things up.

I'm not a massive fan of labels however to make things easier for everyone else i guess if i had to label my sexuality it would be pansexual. No that doesn't mean i'm attracted to pans, i've heard that joke so many times it bores me now and i personally do find it pretty ignorant. 

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For the longest time since realising i wasn't attracted to just cis males i labelled myself as bisexual however in recent years i've discovered the term pansexual and i felt it fit me a lot more than bisexual did. 

I told my mum i liked girls when i was thirteen and she wasn't the slighest bit surprised. She told me she already knew. As i got older i realised i would be open to dating people who don't just fit into the cis male, cis female catagory. I genuinely don't care who someone is, what their religion, gender, cultural background, job as long we get on and we're attracted to each other then that's all that matters to me. 

In high school i fell victim to bullying due to my sexuality (amongst many other stupid things) however i had such a strong and supportive network of friends and family around me that it did make it a lot easier for me to stand up for myself and to the bullies. I understand that sadly not everyone has that network that stands behind them; so i have been extremely lucky and i never take that for granted. 

I'm incredibly thankful & grateful for the people around me who made and continue to make my journey as a pansexual woman the easiest it could possibly be. Whilst we are a progressive society and being part of the lgbtq+ community is becoming more and more expcepted, predjudice and homophobia is still a huge issue and is present; we all need to make more of an effort to normalise it, just because something isn't how it 'should be' it doesn't mean it's wrong.

People have been experiencing sexual attraction to the same sex and more since forever so it's not something new that needs to be slowly introduced into society. People need to be educated, no one is born homophobic; it's a learned behaviour from the enviornment they grew up in and i will give everyone a chance to educate themselves and change the train of thought. However what i won't sit back and watch is people who remain ignorant and aren't open to being inclusive of everyone. Its just ignorance and in todays day in age there should be no place for it.